Family & Friend Fridays: Views of the integration of family and/or friends into our stuttering and therapist lives

As I grew up as a young boy who stuttered, it was a different time in the world. The Internet did not yet exist. There were no organizations yet like the NSA or Friends.

My parents had to go it on their own. I knew that my mother had stuttered until she left home to go do college. Sadly this topic was never brought up. Even then I talked fast; I remember my father telling me to “e – nun – ci – ate” my words. My stutter was only talked about except in terms of the therapy I needed to solve my problem. But therapy didn’t help, and served to only increase my isolation and shame.

During dinner table conversation it was difficult for me to get a word in edgewise. When I did get the floor, at the dinner table, what usually resulted was the struggled silence of my efforts to speak.

These days I marvel at parents who have conversations with their children, about topics like their day at school. But we were not a family that talked with each other much. More relaxed 1:1 talks might have helped.

Nowadays at conferences of Friends: the National Organization for Young People Who Stutter, there are workshops not just for the kids but also for their parents and other family members. I wonder what it would have been like for my parents, siblings and I to be at a conference like this?

Jeff Shames

Friday, October 16, 2015

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Family & Friend Fridays: Views of the integration of family and/or friends into our stuttering and therapist lives — 2 Comments

  1. Thanks, Jeff. As adults I believe we continue to heal from our experiences by being with young people who stutter. I appreciate how dedicated you’ve been to Friends.

    Best,
    nora