I believe there are three parts to our minds
Conscious mind ———-about 10%;
Subconscious mind —–about 40% to 60%;
Unconscious mind ——about 30% to 50%.
The conscious mind gets busy on new ideas and tasks which require focus, attention and detail. (On average only three or four tasks at a time.) The capacity of the conscious mind is very small so it can, of necessity, program the other minds to work on auto pilot to help complete the ideas / tasks. With enough repetition by the conscious mind, the other minds will pick up more of the workload to free the conscious mind to enable it to increase our general evolution.
The subconscious mind is where all our stored memories are accessed and it will focus its whole power (100% and hundreds / thousands of tasks) to support our conscious mind’s standards, beliefs and visualisations. It will delete, distort and generalise new information to ensure what we believe appears to be true. It requires a massive amount of contrary information to get our conscious minds to change a specific belief or standard.
The unconscious mind automatically carries out the thousands of physical tasks delegated to it. Examples are breathing, moving muscles to smile, walk, pick up a glass to drink without breaking it and all other physical activities, including communication.
The conscious mind links to our subconscious mind via three filters; deletion, distortion and generalisation. We have many memories of stuttering, anxiousness and avoidance in many aspects of speech. These negative memories often surface. Our goal is to replace the negativity with good memories / good experiences / happy thoughts. We need to change our filters.
Based on our beliefs / values and attitude to life, we have set up the parameters for the three filters. As children we are extremely resourceful in arranging parameters to create the maximum feeling of safety. We tend to go through our lives on auto-pilot and may still be using unresourceful parameters now. Our childhood parameters, which provided maximum safety, will not be the most useful in adult life.
A general example is:
By wanting to be safe we are looking to avoid danger. We visualise the danger we want to avoid in our conscious mind; our subconscious sees the visualisation and tries to make it happen.
One specific example is:
We have a happy memory of breakfast; we visualise the food and company; our subconscious seeks ways to make this happen again.
Another specific example is:
Our conscious mind perceives stuttering as a danger we want to avoid; we visualise stuttering; our subconscious sees the visualisation and tries to make stuttering happen.
How we do what we do
All our lives we are bombarded with information (millions of bits per second) through our five senses of sight, sound, smell, taste and touch.
We cannot possibly retain all this information, so it goes through the three filters.
These filters have parameter sets based on our thoughts, focus, beliefs and values, attitudes and decisions, memories and future plans. These filters work automatically. Something just says OK, delete, edit or distort, generalise or pass these specific bits of information.
Deletion. If we live near a busy airport, or railway line, initially we will hear most of the noise, but over a period of time that noise is deleted and we ‘do not hear the noise’.
Distortion. We delete information that disagrees with our beliefs and values, because what we believe, what we value is always right. However, if a distortion will reinforce our belief then distortion occurs. ‘Strangers are laughing / smirking / sniggering at my stutter’. Are we mind readers? They may be scared of the unusual, and may laugh to boost their own morale. However, based on our filter parameters our version of the truth remains ‘They are laughing at my stutter’.
Generalisation. Consider a door. Internal external; single double; hinged to swing in out or both ways, etc. When we see a new door we have never seen before we use past generalised information to know this new object and how to use it. But if we make broad sweeping negative generalisations we can get into trouble. We may have had one bad experience, but if we generalise and assume this will occur again and again, then our distortion filter will make it appear to happen. This becomes a vicious unresourceful circle.
The amount of information getting passed the filters is significantly reduced. This gets stored as our current version of the truth or reality as we see it. We usually visualise this reality as a series of images or small videos. What we visualise influences our emotions. It also influences our physiology, our behaviour and subsequent actions. Our emotions affect our communication. Our emotions will be either resourceful or unresourceful.
Based on our filter parameters we store information, then we do what we do and take action.
Choosing our beliefs and thoughts
When growing up, we instinctively pick up and absorb the beliefs and values of those around us. Parents, siblings, peers, school rules etc. We want to be loved and fit in. This is automatic. Depending on our current age these could be 10 to 80 year old beliefs and values, unless we chose to examine all our own beliefs and values and eliminate all unresourceful ones. We can choose, and build, new resourceful thoughts and beliefs. We can choose to step back and watch what we do and what we think. (Some speech therapists ask us to do this.) It is by being fully aware of our actions and thoughts that we can influence and change our lives.
Spend time writing down beliefs and values and then go through them one by one, asking ‘Do I believe it and is it resourceful now?’ Either keep or discard. Are there new beliefs and values I should have to help me over the next few years?
Spend time reviewing thoughts. Classify them into negative / positive. Examine the thoughts. Always ask can we learn any lessons? Do they help us in any way? What are our emotions? Is it resourceful to continue thinking these thoughts?
If negative, are they making us sad, unhappy, anxious, tense or fearful? Can we flip them completely around to turn them into positive thoughts?
If positive, are they making us happy, calm and relaxed?
Which of these thought types is most resourceful in the years ahead? Can we watch our thoughts and switch them to give us the best possible emotional feelings? Is this a resourceful way ahead?
Reviewing like this helps to change the parameters of our filters to improve the effectiveness of our subconscious hence our evolution.
How we move ahead
We think about a party next week. This may lead us to think about an embarrassment. We often blush. So we begin thinking about not blushing. This means we visualise our very red face and neck. Our conscious mind knows we do not want this. Our subconscious mind sees this visualisation and says ‘I will make this happen’. It does not know of the ‘not want it to happen clause’. So before we even get to the party two parts of our minds are at WAR with completely opposed objectives. Conscious mind ‘does not want to blush’ —— Subconscious mind ‘wants to blush’. We are looking ahead and wanting to leave something behind. Is this conflict resourceful?
What if we visualised our face and neck when they were calm or happy and animated? This is a more resourceful way which increases our chances to achieve what we want.
Similarly with stuttering. Thinking about not stuttering is unresourceful for the reasons just mentioned. Thinking about and planning for better communication day by day is resourceful.
Think and visualise positive ‘towards’ objectives to move ahead.
Meditation and technical meditation
Most definitions of stuttering include the ideas of tension and lack of calm. Deep belly breathing is one way to reduce tension and introduce calm for a short while. Meditation is another. There are many ways to meditate. A google search will show many of them. I followed the ‘technical meditation’ path using Holosync. Details can be found at www.centerpointe.com about the five main brain waves; Gamma, Beta, Alpha, Theta and Delta and how Holosync works.
In our usual waking life we are at the higher end of the brain waves. So mid-Beta to Gamma. This is associated with unease, anxiety kind of emotions. When we recognise this, we often breathe more deeply to ‘slow ourselves down’. This lowers the Beta brain wave level so we can concentrate more, and be more resourceful. When we are absorbed in a book / TV / film we are probably in Alpha.
Holosync produces sounds, via stereo headphones, that creates certain brain waves in the ears. Hearing these sounds takes the brain to those specific brain wave levels. Thus by listening to the sounds the brain can be taken from Beta down through Alpha and Theta to Delta. Over a period of time, in years, lower levels of Holosync take us lower levels of these brain waves. Using Holosync regularly introduces long periods of lasting calm and more focused thoughts which help me in so many ways, including reducing the frequency and severity of stuttering blocks.
In assessing how my mind shapes my communication I go back to 2006 and the self improvement stage of my life. I began asking ‘how….?’. A very powerful question to help change my focus and life. I asked and found answers to how my mind works and how to change all my beliefs / values / thoughts to be positive and forward looking.
Belly breathing; attitude of mind; switching negative to positive; watching what I think and do and technical meditation have been the five main pillars in my communication progress day by day.
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