|About the author: Stacey MacDonald lives in Seattle, WA. She is a life-long stutterer. She is the proud Mom of her daughter, Ava, and kitty, Lucy.
Stacey is currently in remission and hopes to stay that way!
Okay, my title is a bit misleading, because I don’t think anything can actually prepare anyone to hear “you have cancer”. During my medical ordeal, I saw a lot of parallels to my stuttering. My stuttering and cancer always have come back to “Why me?” But, I don’t stay there long. You have to rise up, adjust and move forward.
There will always be questions and misunderstandings about both stuttering and cancer. But, the more we seek to know more, share our personal experiences and keep talking about things, the unknown tends to be a less frightening place. Plus, we know that we are never alone.
I would like the world to know that stuttering and being a cancer survivor are just small aspects of my life. They do not define who I am, however they are challenges that I will carry for the rest of my life.
I had posted the following list a few months ago on my Facebook page. Some are new. But, all can be applied to stuttering, cancer and life in general.
What would you add?
- Not all treatments/therapies are the same. One may help one person and not do a darn thing for another. Find what works for you! (P.S. You have the ultimate decision to seek help, if any)
- Your circumstances are unique to you
- People fear what they don’t understand. Educate yourself and then share what you have learned (but, don’t give unsolicited advice!)
- There will always be someone who just can’t handle your differences
- You cannot compare your situation to someone else’s
- You can be an inspiration to others…just by trying
- It is okay to have a pity party…once in a while. Just don’t make it your “normal”
- Some days are better than others
- Celebrate the victories
- You never have to go through it alone. Reach out to people who understand, and have been (or are)there
- It is okay to ask for help when you need it
- Patience will take you a long way–with yourself and others
- Even in scary situations, find the good
Wishing everyone patience, understanding and good health!
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