How to overcome stuttering (and anything else) (Derek L. Mitchell)

About the author: Derek L. Mitchell is a writer, speaker and person who stutters.  Derek joined the National Stuttering Association in 2013.  Since joining, he has hosted workshops at two NSA conferences and now leads the NSA Atlanta chapter.  Derek has overcome a multitude of challenges related to stuttering to earn his MBA in international business from Georgia State University, begin a successful career in IT project management, become an active member of Toastmasters and join the National Speakers Association.  He recently turned his attention towards sharing his experiences with stuttering with his blog, YouTube channel and speaking engagements. Derek’s ultimate goal is to inspire people to phase out fear in their lives and turn their biggest challenges into their best assets.



I have observed that people who stutter (PWS) often place the challenges that we face in a separate category than the challenges of people who don’t stutter (PWDS).  I have heard many PWS say things like “the world will never understand what we go through”.  After hearing statements like this enough times, I began to ask why does the world need to understand?  I don’t have to understand what it’s like to be blind to know that it makes like difficult.  In the end, we are all human and face challenges regardless of what those challenges might be.  Is stuttering really such a unique challenge, that only other PWS can recognize that having a stutter can make life difficult?  I don’t think so.  I believe that people who don’t stutter, while not being able to empathize with our specific challenges, can see that living with a speech impediment in a communication-driven world could be problematic.  My journey to overcome stuttering has made this perspective very clear to me.  When I reflect on how I came to a point of speaking freely and living fearlessly, I realized that the methods I used to overcome my stutter also helped me overcome other issues in my life.  If this is the case, is stuttering really so different from other challenges outside of stuttering that I or PWDS face?  The rest of world doesn’t need to understand the specifics of stuttering, because they understand what it is to be human.  Being human, in an imperfect and challenging world, is what binds us all together regardless of fluency.

How to overcome stuttering and anything else

How do I overcome stuttering?  That seems to be the main question asked by people who stutter.  It’s the question that I began asking at a young age and, two decades later, I finally got my answer.  Answering this question was prompted by an invitation to speak to a class of SLP (Speech-Language Pathology) students at Georgia State University (GSU).  This opportunity was important because it gave me the chance to give back to the program that helped me years ago.  I did a deep dive into how stuttering has impacted my life and what resources have helped me the most to prepare.  Once I was done examining my life, I began to question whether I had overcome my stutter and what overcoming really meant.

I realized that over the past eleven years I had taken some critical steps to go from living in fear everyday of how my stutter would affect me, to living with confidence.  How did that happen?  I still stutter, so how do I feel so comfortable with myself and live my life with little regard to my stutter?  These are the questions I asked myself and once again I did a deep dive to find some answers.  The first epiphany that I had was that you don’t have to get rid of something to overcome it.  You can overcome something by understanding how you live with it, how you feel about it and your perspective on it.  This is what I have done over the past eleven years to start and make progress on my journey to overcome stuttering.

2006: In the Beginning

This journey started in 2006 when I realized the promise that I would outgrow my stutter was a false hope.  I still believed that a fix or cure was still possible, but I knew that it would take action on my part to make it a reality.  The first thing I sought was a good speech therapist.  At this point, the last time I worked with a speech therapist was thirteen years prior when I was twelve years old.  I ended up working with a graduate student of the SLP program at GSU.  Working with the speech therapist was a great experience.  I was reintroduced to some fluency techniques I learned years ago and introduced to some new ones.  The most beneficial thing from those sessions is being introduced to the National Stuttering Association (NSA).  The annual conference was in Atlanta the week I had my last session at GSU and the therapist strongly recommended that I attend. I was not ready to admit that I would have a long-term issue with stuttering and politely declined.

2011: On the Therapist Couch

After years of dealing with a hair-trigger temper, it occurred to me that stuttering might not be my biggest issue.  I had a lot of negative experiences as a result of my stutter, and the way I handled the resulting feelings were to stuff them down, instead of working through my emotions.  The company I worked for offered free mental health services and I reluctantly took advantage of those resources.  I now see that this is one of the best things I’ve ever done for myself.  I felt the burden of all those years of emotional baggage lift after the first session with my therapist.  I couldn’t believe how much talking about my past helped me.  I only intended to see a therapist for a few sessions because at that time I thought I only had baggage the size of carry-on luggage to deal with.  After a few sessions, I realized that I had enough baggage to check for a flight and be charged for going over the weight restriction.  I went on to see my therapist for four years. I wouldn’t be the person I am now without the work that we did.

2013: Back to Speech Therapy

The progress I was making resolving my past was allowing me to turn my attention more towards the future.  When my attention began to shift, I realized that despite the work I was doing to improve my mental and emotional health, my insecurity about my stutter would compromise how I moved forward.  I decided that I needed to give speech therapy another try.  I need to put this decision in context in order to make it clear how critical it was to get a handle on my stutter.  At this point in my life things were looking great on the outside.  This was the condition of my life at that time:

  • Completed my MBA in international business;
  • Traveled to 3 continents and 7 countries while in graduate school;
  • Finished a great internship;
  • Met my future wife;
  • Feeling hopeful and excited about life in general;

Despite these positive things happening in my life, my stutter still had a hold over me. I knew my life would never reach its full potential if I didn’t face it. Luckily, I found the best speech therapist for the job.  This was my best experience with a speech therapist and it completely changed my view of stuttering.  The most important lesson my therapist taught me is that it’s ok to stutter!  This was a big revelation for me because I always thought I needed to completely eradicate my stutter in order to deal with it.

My therapist did one more thing for me that I had passed on years earlier.  During our last session, she suggested that I go to a support group for people who stutter.  This happened to be a local chapter of the NSA. I remembered this is the same NSA that the therapist at GSU had mentioned to me seven years prior.  I attended my first NSA meeting the summer of 2013 and it was as excruciatingly uncomfortable as I expected.  Watching other people struggle to speak gave me an external look at my internal struggle.  That experience, while uncomfortable, was exactly what I needed. I’ve remained involved with the NSA since that day!

2015: Let’s Make a Toast!

This was the breakthrough year all of my previous experiences had prepared me for.  The perfect opportunities seemed to line up at the perfect time to change the course of my life. Shortly after I started my new job, I realized that the company had a Toastmasters club.  Toastmasters had been on my list of goals since 2008, but I was never able to muster enough courage to make the commitment.  This time would be different due to the club president’s persistence to have me join.  I eventually joined and made the commitment to Toastmasters.

My first challenge was the icebreaker speech.  I was terrified, but determined to do it.  When the moment came, I was standing in front of a crowded conference room with my colleagues staring at me waiting for my first words.  After my speech was done, I felt a sense of power and achievement that rivaled my graduation day!  I knew I had started a special journey that day.

I gave my first speech in May 2015 and by November I found myself on a stage in front of ballroom full of people competing in the final round of a speech contest.  I came in 3rd place!!  After the contest, I was looking at my trophy thinking how did I get here?  How did I go from being afraid to visit Toastmasters to speaking in front of a few hundred people?  I was grateful for what started out as a terrifying journey and ended in an incredible personal victory.

In the midst of my progress with Toastmasters, I also attended my first NSA conference in Baltimore.  My involvement with Toastmasters gave me the confidence to also host a workshop at the conference.  This was a life-changing event during the course of a life-changing year.  By the end of 2015, I felt a sense of freedom that I couldn’t believe. I knew my stutter would no longer dictate how I live my life.

The Formula for Overcoming

I reflected on and analyzed this period of my life, with one question in mind.  Why did this period of my life lead to a breakthrough while other times didn’t?  I begin to see a pattern emerge from these life events.  This pattern is the basis for the process/formula that I went through to overcome stuttering.  My formula for overcoming is:

Acceptance + Leverage + Exposure + Expectation = Freedom & Power = Overcoming


Accepting the reality of the challenges I was facing was the first and most critical step to overcoming anything.  Until I came to grips with reality, there can be no effective solution to a problem.  My refusal to accept my stutter lead me to seek something that couldn’t and didn’t need to be fixed.  The reality is that there is no cure for stuttering. I tried to ignore reality, but reality didn’t ignore me.  Reality didn’t need permission or acknowledgment to have an impact on my life.  It wasn’t until I accepted reality that I made significant progress in my life on core issues I was facing.


It is important to have clear goals to overcome anything.  I had to ask myself, what did overcoming actually mean for me?  I had to identify what I wanted, then figure out why?  The why was my leverage.  The leverage is what motivated me to endure obstacles between me and what I wanted.  The key is that the leverage must be bigger than my fear, doubt, lack of resources, or anything else that stood in my way.


When I had leverage, I started to take action and exposure comes naturally.  What exposure meant for me is speaking more, stuttering more openly, and talking about how stuttering has affected me emotionally.  Exposure taught me that I never had a problem with my stutter.  My real problem is how I have felt about my stutter for most of my life. I had felt shame.  Once I started to speak more freely and stutter more openly, the shame started to subside.  The way that I live my life now versus eleven years ago is completely different, but my stutter is the same and might even be worse.  It’s the shame that changed and made all the difference.  Like my favorite preacher always says, “it’s not what happens to you, it’s how you feel about it that matters”.  Once the way I felt about my stutter changed, I was able to change my life.


Once my life started to change, my vision for what the future could hold also changed.  The expectations that I had for my life exploded.  After I graduated from business school and began planning my career, I was advised to choose a path that would require as little communication as possible.   What was worse than someone suggesting it, was accepting it myself.  I accepted that settling for a career that would keep me hidden and quiet was the most my stutter would allow me to hope for.  Now I have goals and ambitions that I could not have imagined a few years ago.  I demand a lot more out of life, myself, and the people I encounter.   Expectations is the last part to the equation. It set me up for a brighter future after I reconciled the past and made the most of the present.


After acceptance, leverage, exposure and expectations I felt FREEDOM & POWER.  These two words now embody how I live my life and what I feel each day.  I have freedom over the control stuttering had over my life. I have the power to change my life in any way I see fit.  As you can see from my story, overcoming is not a quick or easy journey, but it’s WORTH IT!

I often hear people say, “what one man can do, another can do”.  I believe this is true and that anyone can have their own journey of overcoming.   Regardless of the impact that stuttering is having on your life, you can overcome it in your own way and begin living life on your terms.  There is freedom and power waiting for you if you are willing to begin your journey.

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How to overcome stuttering (and anything else) (Derek L. Mitchell) — 45 Comments

  1. Thank you, Derek, for sharing your experiences. It’s very helpful to me to read of these experiences, and to get insight from you. Shame and fear have been, and to a large extent still are, the dominant forces inside me. Your paper, however, is one more step in helping me overcome those self-limiting emotions. It was important for me to be reminded that ” “it’s not what happens to you, it’s how you feel about it that matters”. Once the way I felt about my stutter changed, I was able to change my life. “. Thanks a lot!

    • Thanks for inviting to contribute again this year. I’m glad you liked my content. Shame and fear are powerful forces and I’ll always be open to sharing my experiences to help others because it’s a persistent battle.

  2. Thank you Derek for a great contribution to the ISAD conference. Sharing your experiences and journey will surely inspire others who are looking to somehow break through from the fear that so often holds us back. I don’t look at stuttering as something to be “overcome.” Rather, for me, it was overcoming the fear of stuttering openly. I was so afraid to stutter openly for fear of how people would react – laugh or mimic me – or utterly reject me because I spoke with a stutter, something that made me different. It took me a long time to overcome that fear and even now, it creeps in every once in a while. Bravo to you for living your life fearlessly.

    • Thanks Pam. I agree that stuttering is not something we need to overcome. That’s why I wrote this paper, in an attempt to redefine where our focus should be. Like you, I focused on fear and not fluency. It’s still hard at times, but it gets easier the more I face it.

  3. Hi Derek,

    I really enjoyed reading your post! I think it was great how you titled your post and explained the challenges you face aren’t as different as the challenges people who don’t stutter face. The struggle to overcome challenges in our life is something that makes us uniquely human. Of course the challenges that each of us face are different, but we can overcome those challenges in the same way you did.

    As a SLP graduate student, it was great to hear that the most important lesson you learned from therapy was that it is okay to stutter. What else would you say was empowering to hear that helped you let go of the “shame” you were feeling?

    • I’m glad you enjoyed the post Nicolette. My experience with Toastmasters really made it clear that we as people share so many common struggles regardless of the source. I had people tell me how afraid of public speaking they are and I couldn’t understand it. Then I realized it doesn’t whether you stutter or not, speaking in front of people is scary. That understanding helped me because I stopped seeing my stutter as so much worse than other challenge a person could face.

      Hearing that from my therapist was a breakthrough to get me to take action. I didn’t need to hear anything else because it was the action that really changed my life. From my experience, if you can work with your clients to take action to change their lives you have done a great job.

  4. Thank you for sharing your stages of change story. Hope your story can empower others to disclose their stories and change how he or she perceive their stuttering.


    • I hope my story can help others too Michael. That’s I’m so open about my journey and will continue to be.

  5. Hi Derek,

    I really enjoyed your post! I really liked how you said, “I don’t need to be blind to know it makes life difficult” in response to hearing how the world will never understand what PWS go through, I thought that was such a neat perspective.
    I’m glad you were able to find a speech therapist who was able to help you and who helped you to accept your stutter. What therapy activities did you do in speech therapy?

    • Thanks! That perspective started developing for me when I attended a conference for people with disabilities. I met people so many different challenges and I started to feel more connected to others instead of separated because of my stutter.

      I’m so grateful that I found such a great therapist. We essentially worked together to deconstruct my speech. We worked on pronunciation of each letter of the alphabet and various syllables to understand how I needed to approach certain sounds. We also did a lot of breathing and pacing exercises as well. It was a perfect combination of fluency and mindset therapy.

  6. Hi Derek,
    I really enjoyed reading your post! I was happy to read that you had finally found a turning point in your life where you felt both power and freedom from your stutter. I am currently in graduate school for speech language pathology and what is highlighted most in my stuttering class is explaining to clients and their families that it is okay to stutter and use the word stuttering. I enjoyed reading that this was a big take away for you during your time in speech therapy back in 2013! I feel that your formula for overcoming stuttering in your life is something that I can apply to my own life as well as any future clients that I may have. I loved that your post highlighted challenges that we all have to overcome whether we are people or stutter or people who do not stutter.

    Thank you so much for sharing!


    • Thanks Desiree! It’s so important to have the support of the family. That can make all the difference and I’m glad that was highlighted for your class. But in the absence of that family support, you can also be a source of support for whoever you’re working with.

      Good luck to you!

  7. Hello Mr. Mitchell,

    I really enjoyed reading this post! As a current graduate student in Speech Language Pathology it is helpful to get some perspective on your journey. I found especially constructive reading your story and then having the breakdown of the strategies you used in overcoming stuttering. Thank you for sharing!


  8. Hi Derek,

    I really enjoyed reading your post and hearing your perspectives. I can really relate to the statement you made – “The rest of world doesn’t need to understand the specifics of stuttering, because they understand what it is to be human. Being human, in an imperfect and challenging world, is what binds us all together regardless of fluency.”
    I deal with a chronic illness and often have similar feelings to what you mentioned about fear and feeling as if other people in the world can’t understand what you’re dealing with. I also related to what you said about overcoming something by understanding how to live with it.
    I am an SLP graduate student who is about to go into the working world and one aspect I’m compelled to with this field is the counseling aspect that must come along with actual treatment.
    I know you went to a therapist, but as far as your SLP – what types of counseling techniques did your SLP use that helped you overcome the fear and shame surrounding your stutter, specifically?

    Thank you for sharing!

    • This summer I spoke to class of SLP students and this is something I highlighted. Stuttering comes with a lot of mental and emotional baggage. Dealing with that is critical to making the fluency techniques you will teach with effective. The best thing you can do is provide a safe, warm and supportive environment each time a client sees you. Even though I hated that I needed to see a speech therapist it did become a highlight of my week because of how safe I felt with my therapist. Because she made me feel safe, I was very receptive to her techniques and advice that stuttering is ok. Providing a safe environment and helping your clients to understand that there is nothing wrong with stuttering is best you can do to deal with the fear and shame aspect.

      Good luck to you!

  9. Hi Derek,

    Thank you so much for sharing your journey and experiences which lead to overcoming your stuttering! I really enjoyed the beginning of your post where you talked about being able to understand that being blind is difficult without actually being blind. It was a really good point of view. I enjoyed the turning point in your post and thought it was really insightful. Your situation and feelings towards it, as you mentioned in the beginning, can apply to many difficulties we face as humans. I think when you mention your struggle with acceptance and then what life was like when you finally acknowledged and accepted your stuttering, it helps those who are currently struggling some hope and may even urge them to accept/recognize what is really causing them strife.

    Thanks again!


    • Thanks for reading Haley! Acceptance was the key for starting my journey. I hope my story does help others get to a place of acceptance because from my experience it’s hard to progress without it.

  10. Hi Derek,

    I loved reading your story about how you were able to overcome stuttering. I agree that it shouldn’t take a person to stutter to understand that it can be difficult on someone’s quality of life. I enjoyed learning about the milestones of you overcoming stuttering and your accomplishments while doing so. Your story is inspiring!

    You mentioned that you were involved in speech therapy as an adolescent. I was curious to know if there was a specific aspect of therapy that you enjoyed at such a young age or if there is any advice you could give to a future clinician in working with a child or adolescent who stutters so that they may look forward to sessions?

    Thank you!

    • Hi Madisan,

      Thanks for reading and I’m glad you enjoyed the post. I really don’t remember that much from my therapy sessions. I do remember that it didn’t help my speech that much outside of the sessions. My fear and anxiety was so intense at that time that it prevented me from effectively using the techniques. However, my speech therapist wasn’t aware of this and assumed that because I was fluent in our sessions, that I was also fluent at other times. It’s important to understand what is happening with your client’s speech in and out of therapy to get the full picture. At that age I would suggest working on the child’s self-esteem is as important as working on fluency. Feeling good about themselves and unashamed of their stutter will make the techniques more effective.

      Good luck!

  11. Hello Derek,
    Thank you for sharing your journey with us. It’s amazing to see your journey of personal growth and self-confidence. As an SLP student, your statement regarding obstacles and changing your perspective on them really struck a chord with me. I can’t wait to share your insight and advice with future clients.
    Thank you!

    • Thanks for reading Nancy. I hope my story can help your future clients with their personal challenges with stuttering.

  12. Thank you for sharing your experience.
    I found your story truly inspiring!
    If I understand correctly, going to a psychologist and joining a support group were both important parts of your journey.
    Do you suggest that all PWS see a psychologist?

    • Yes seeing a therapist and being with other PWS made a huge difference for my mental and emotional health, which I believe is an important part of overcoming stuttering. I believe it would be beneficial for all PWS to see a therapist at some point. The degree to which that should happen is contingent upon the amount of baggage each person is dealing with but, I believe all PWS have some issues that could benefit from the help of a therapist. I also believe this because since there is no cure for stuttering, we need to be strong mentally and emotionally to handle its impact on our lives.

      Thanks for the question.

  13. Thank you, Derek, for this wonderfully written account of your experiences as a PWS. I especially loved reading about your formula for overcoming. I was particularly intrigued by the “Expectation” portion. You write about putting expectations on yourself, like choosing a job that would not keep you hidden away and not speaking to people. As a future speech therapist, how do you think I could help my future clients build their expectations for themselves? I don’t want to push them, but I do want to see them live out their ambitions in regards to overcoming. Thank you in advance!

    • Thanks for reading!

      I think expectations is a result of the confidence that is built during the first three steps. The world looks a lot differently when viewed through the lens of confidence instead of shame and self-doubt. It may not be comfortable, but I think you should push your clients. Of course how and to which degree you do it is subject for each client. Your clients will have to do things that are uncomfortable with, no matter how small, in order to understand their capability. When they began to understand that stuttering doesn’t have to limit what they are capable of, what they expect from live and themselves will began to expand.

  14. Thank you for sharing you experience! I felt your thoughts really expressed a different view for stuttering. I found it interesting that you took a perspective from PWS, as well PWDS. As a PWDS, I felt what you mentioned about everyone facing challenges because we are human is very important. It was also powerful when you discussed how PWDS may not be able to empathize with PWS, but that does not mean that they cannot see the challenges that they face every day. For a PWS, I agree with what you said when you talked about the equation that worked for you. I feel more people should become knowledgeable about this and maybe it would help them too!

  15. Thanks for sharing your journey, Derek! I found this article insightful and it gave me a better perspective on how a person who stutters may feel and the impact that stuttering can have on one’s life. This article was a great reminder that you do not necessarily have to get rid of something to overcome it. Acknowledging and understanding the challenge is how you truly overcome it. The process you explain to overcome challenges can definitely be applied by anyone who wants to overcome any challenge in their life.

  16. Derek – Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us. I am currently a first-year SLP graduate student and for me, reading about your experience is helpful in learning how to best approach therapy for individuals who stutter. I think that the model you have discussed in regard to overcoming fear in order to achieve power and freedom is something that many people can relate to in the form of various personal struggles. I especially admire your dedication to facing the personal struggles that once held you back. Speaking on behalf of all those who do not stutter but wish to understand, I truly appreciate your insight.

  17. Thank you for sharing your story! How much of an impact do you think connecting with other PWS had?

    • Thanks for reading!

      Having other PWS in my life was key to my progress. In my case I never wanted to face other PWS because I didn’t want to see my struggle on the faces of others. Essentially, I didn’t want to face myself. Having relationships with PWS helped me to not feel alone, accept myself and stop being ashamed of my stutter.

  18. What a wonderful read! What you said was very powerful and gave me a different point of view on stuttering as someone who does not stutter. I especially liked reading about your story on the emotional impact stuttering can have on someone who stutters. You really told a firm hold on your emotional aspect of stuttering. It takes a lot of mental strength to talk about emotions that have been bundled up for many years. I also really enjoyed your formula for overcoming. I am currently a first year graduate student studying Speech Language Pathology. I am always on the look out for helpful tools to use down the road, and I found yours particularly appealing. If you don’t mind, I would love to use it!
    You mentioned that you went to multiple SLP’s for your stutter. What particularly did your most recent speech therapist do that helped you the most? Do you have any advice for SLP’s when they have clients that stutter?
    Thank you for sharing your story. I really enjoyed it!

    • Thanks for reading Amanda!

      Please use my story or any tools I have provided as you see fit, that’s why I’m so open about my experiences. My last speech therapist addressed the mental and emotional aspects of stuttering which is what really held me back for most of my life. She understood the shame that PWS experience and by telling me that it’s ok to stutter was the first step to lifting the burden of that shame. You will be in a tough position because you’re training to deal with the mechanics of stuttering but the psychological aspect is also very important to address. I would say creating a safe and supportive environment for the client is key and also letting them know stuttering is nothing to be ashamed of.

  19. Hi Derek! I just wanted to say thank you for sharing your experiences and for your perspective on what overcoming really means. It does not mean completely eliminating something; it means taking your formula, “Acceptance + Leverage + Exposure + Expectation = Freedom & Power = Overcoming” and applying it with an open mind and open heart. I was hoping you could potentially elaborate on how, in 2013,
    watching other people struggle to speak gave you “an external look at your internal struggle,” and why that experience in particular impacted you so greatly? Thank you!

    • Thanks for reading and great question!

      The main reason why I never wanted to be involved in the stuttering community is because I knew it would require me to really face the reality that my stutter is not something I could ignore. Never looking in a mirror while speaking or looking at myself speaking on video was a part of that denial. If I never had to see myself stutter then I could pretend that it wasn’t an issue. Being around a group of people who stutter brought me face to face with my internal struggle. Watching the effort and frustration it takes to say a single sentence, the facial ticks and the struggle to breathe on others was like holding up a mirror and I didn’t like it. But it was necessary to face the fact that this is how I sound and this is what I look like when I speak. That’s when it felt like my internal struggle had become external.

  20. Hi Derek,

    I’ll be searching your Youtube videos for material to use, especially with some of my junior high clients. It’s interesting how much your paper helped me realize how to be a better clinician, as a person who does not stutter. One powerful realization I had was that I don’t have to have a stuttering experience to share personal experiences that will empower PWS. I might not have had the same challenges, but I’ve had my own challenges! Thanks for being a positive voice in the stuttering community and inspiring PWS to become fearless!

    • Thank you!

      I’m glad you found value in my story. Below is a link to my YouTube channel, but I do have a disclaimer. I don’t censor myself in my videos so there is some profanity is some of them. Just make sure you watch the videos thoroughly before sharing them with your younger clients.

  21. Thank you for sharing your experiences and your equation for overcoming! I found your paper intriguing and insightful. You’re right, we don’t have all the same challenges, and we don’t have to be able to completely empathize with people to see the difficulties. We are all human in an imperfect world… what a great way to connect PWS and PWDS, very powerful. Thank you!

  22. Hello Derek,

    Thank you for sharing your personal experience, I know that takes an incredible amount of courage. Your insight into what life is like for a PWS was intriguing, and I also enjoyed your presentation of the perspective of a PWDS. As a PWDS, I know that I will never fully understand life as a PWS, but by providing your insights, I can begin to gain a better understanding that will help me as a future SLP. Your perspective on the formula for overcoming could be applicable to a variety of contexts, whether it be stuttering, anxiety, or another disability. This shows that adversity in any facet can be a learning tool for others.

    Thank you for sharing your story,
    Hannah Z.

  23. Derek,
    I found this piece very informative concerning a possible journey to acceptance of one’s stutter. Framing treatment with a formula such as your may increase the number of people who can overcome the fear and avoidance behaviors that may go along with their stuttering. I found it interesting that there were a few times you noted having the possible resources to overcome this fear, however it took you a while to accept that. It seems as though this a very personalized journey. Is there a particular way in which you would suggest some of your experiences to a PWS in order to help them reach this acceptance? What are some other ways you would suggest for PWS to learn to cope with their stutter and accept the person they are?
    Thank you,
    Emily L.

    • Thanks for reading Emily!

      I would say the first step to acceptance is understanding that there is no cure for stuttering. Until I accepted that stuttering would be a permanent part of my life, I was always looking for a way to get rid of it. Clamoring for a cure took the focus off the more meaningful work that I needed to do. Once a PWS accepts that there is no cure then they have to define what overcoming means for their life or essentially figuring out what they want. Once they figure out what they want it’s only a matter of identifying the obstacles to getting it.

      For example, I was tired of being afraid to speak in public or at all for that matter. My obstacle was fear so that’s why I joined Toastmasters in order to face and overcome it. There are practical steps that can be taken in order to reach a level of acceptance. It’s not just an abstract idea that just comes over you one day. I think mapping out those steps is critical so that process becomes very practical with a definite start and end.

      I hope this helps.

  24. Thanks so much for sharing your journey. I love the equasion. Even if the outcome is not “overcoming” but “dealing”, that’s a great outcome as well. Life is a puzzle and sometimes we’re so focused on one piece, one color, that we forget to see the whole picture, and forget to see that the piece we’re missing might not have the picture we’re expected to see, but when found, lots of other pieces suddenly make sense.

    I’m delighted you found all those pieces and what a fantastic puzzle you made! I hope you will inspire other pws with your story, here and in your chapter.

    Keep talking!

    Anita S. Blom, Sweden

    • Hey Anita,

      Thank you and I will definitely keep talking! I love the puzzle analogy. I might use that one day. I’m a lot happier since I started focusing on the whole picture and that’s what I hope to help others do.