Devora Levi is 20 years old. This year she is starting a semester of elective studies in a new academic institution. She arrives at this new “beginning” with the experience of growing up with a stutter, hiding it “very well” for years. In high school she emerged from her covert cover, to reveal her true self, speaking-up and participating more fully in her life. She found herself working as a waitress/server at the local café and completing 2 years of national service in a national security unit. These opportunities represent activities and roles she never dreamt as possibilities for herself just a few years earlier. (She wrote this in 2018.)
Uri Schneider, M.A. CCC-SLP is a partner at Schneider Speech (USA and Israel) and faculty at the School of Medicine at University of California at Riverside. Uri is recognized for his clinical impact, educational engagement and empowering trainings. He embodies a broad range of professional experience; deep commitment to advancing professional excellence in the field; and personal care for all people to become their best.
Uri is an international leader in clinical care, professional development and advocacy. He is active lecturing around the world, publishing articles – most recently hosting a podcast series “Conversations” and regular virtual meet-ups for parents, teens and adults. Uri co-produced two documentaries “Transcending Stuttering: The Inside Story” and “Going with the Flow: A Guide to Transcending Stuttering” and the most recent Transcending Stuttering Series of online experiences including independent learning and group therapy.
Uri enjoys running and spending time with his family (wife and four children).
FINDING OUR RESILIENCE TO BOUNCE BACK.
- RESILIENCE IN EVOLUTION: THE UNFOLDING SINGLE STORY
Written by Devora Levi, a young woman who stutters
- RESILIENCE IS ON THE WAY: THE MULTIPLICITY OF STORIES
Video of people who stutter telling multiplicity of personal stories with collective theme
- KEYS TO UNLOCK RESILIENCE: A FRAMEWORK AND KEYS FOR YOU
Professional wisdom and valuable keys for living with resilience
RESILIENCE IN EVOLUTION: THE UNFOLDING SINGLE STORY
Devora Levi is 20 years old. This year she is starting a semester of elective studies in a new academic institution. She arrives at this new “beginning” with the experience of growing up with a stutter, hiding it “very well” for years, and in high school she emerged from her covert cover, to reveal her true self, speaking-up and participating more fully in her life. She found herself working as a waitress/server at the local café and completing 2 years of national service in a national security unit. These opportunities represent activities and roles she never dreamt as possibilities for herself just a few years earlier.
And at the same time, as much as she has emerged, she is still on the journey. She shares how “acceptance” is not a destination. Rather, it is an unfolding process of increasing the strength, fortitude and drive to be true to one’s self, even as the feelings of fear, shame and holding back crop-up again and again. This is her story of resilience, in real-time, in real-life, on the first day of a new academic program:
Am I dreading this group meeting today? Absolutely. This is still something I don’t enjoy, and still I know for sure my heart will be pounding as my turn to speak gets closer.
But hey, a couple of years ago I would have decided to just run away to the bathroom and escape the situation altogether. I’m not going to do that this time.
I’m gonna speak and I’m gonna stutter (or not), and I’m gonna make the best of it. And honestly, usually it works out better than I thought it would.
For me, it’s all about the fear. My stutter is what it is (and if I’m being honest, it really isn’t severe), but my mindset can change.
I used to feel; if other people saw me stutter, then it would be the end of the world for me. But I’ve come to understand; who cares if I stutter? It just doesn’t matter (as much as I used to believe it did.)
When I was younger, it was about showing others I was “flawless.” Now, I am driven every day to prove to myself that I can do it.
RESILIENCE IS ON THE WAY: THE MULTIPLICITY OF STORIES
In the pursuit of resilience and the art of bouncing back, there is no “one-size-fits-all.” We all need something a little different. Rather than following one story, we can learn more through the multiplicity of stories.
“Hitting Bottom and Bouncing Back” is a poignant chapter in our documentary film, “Transcending Stuttering: The Inside Story”.
This chapter is a familiar one for many of us in our personal life stories. It is the chapter of being put down by others and feeling down with ourselves. The novelty is how we go through that chapter, and how we write the next ones. Sometimes, in the times of adversity, struggle and even pain, we discover pivotal points of turn-around.
Each individual story will resonate differently for each of us,
Nonetheless, there is immeasurable value in the multiplicity of stories.
As you watch the film clip and read the “Ten Keys of Resilient Living”
- What similarities and strengths do you already have in your life?
- What are some lessons/areas to help you “bounce back” and be more resilient?
- Michael – independently decides to change a habit (not raising his hand in class.)
- Taro – takes a chance to open-up and talk to a friend, rather than panicking, stressing and suffering in isolation.
- Steven – restores believing in himself through the encouragement and recognition of his his coach and teammates
- Alan – reflects on and clarifies his values and life mission to be an advocate for victims of human recklessness
- Frankie – leans into music and creative expression to tap into his story and help others through theirs
KEYS TO UNLOCK RESILIENCE: A FRAMEWORK AND KEYS FOR YOU
Are you also looking for the secrets of resilient living?
You won’t find “out there.” Because the greatest wisdom is “in there.”
No one knows YOU better than YOU do. You are the expert of you, more than anyone else.
Are you looking for the strength to “bounce back”?
You won’t get it from someone else. The “strength” you need is inside of you.
No one else can flex your muscles for you.
Whether it’s the courage to rise-up and rise-above the hurdles, or strength to endure the journey, the power lies within.
You might not feel it yet, but it’s there.
When it gets squeezed, pressed and tapped, the power within starts to flow and express itself more and more in your life.
TEN KEYS TO RESILIENT LIVING
This is a practical framework for developing our resilience, from leading professional, Dr. Robert Brooks’ “Ten Keys of Resilient Living.”
Resilient individuals possess a particular mindset and accompanying skills that help them respond to life’s challenges with confidence and grace. Dr. Robert Brooks
Ten Keys to Resilient Living, Robert Brooks, PhD.
Key #1: Rewrite Your Negative Scripts
Key #2: Choose a Path to Become Stress Hardy Rather Than Stressed Out
Key #3: View Life Through the Eyes of Others
Key #4: Communicate Effectively
Key #5: Accept Yourself and Others
Key #6: Make Connections and Display Compassion
Key #7: Learn to Deal with Mistakes
Key #8: Learn to Deal with Success and Build Islands of Competence
Key #9: Continue Developing Self-Discipline and Self-Control
Key #10: Maintaining Your Resilient Lifestyle Takes Work
“A Resilient Mindset Will Change Your Life” Dr. Robert Brooks
Dr. Robert Brooks
Assistant Professor of Psychology, Department of Psychiatry, Harvard Medical School
Ten Keys to Resilient Living, Robert Brooks, PhD.
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